PARENTS TEACHING VALUES
PARENTS TEACHING VALUES ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS
SEX EDUCATION & SUBSTANCE ABUSE PREVENTION BEGINS AT HOME
PLEASE CLICK ON TITLES TO VIEW VIDEOS FOR PARENTING CLASS DISCUSSION:
- The Bernie Mac Show S3Ep19 "The Talk" (free)
- Black-Ish S3Ep11 "Their Eyes Were Watching Screens" Youtube Video $1.99 "Their Eyes Were Watching Screens"
- SEXTING: Does your teen understand the laws of your state regarding sexual conduct & consent according to: age, gender, & race
- "Atypical":The series, which was created by Robia Rashid and revolves around Sam Gardner (Keir Gilchrist), an 18 year-old with autism spectrum disorder, has been critically touted for its realistic and unflinching portrayal of not only what it’s like to be a high functioning autistic high schooler, but how that experience affects the daily lives of family members and loved ones. WARNING: For ages 13 and above. language, violence and sexual content in the programming.
- NETFLIX: Official Atypical Season 2
According to the Centers of Disease Control and Prevention, about one out of every 68 children is diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder and, as a result, autism has become an increasingly hot-button topic of discussion in the media.
CONFLICT AVOID CRISIS: 4 TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS
- [_] #A. PHILIA/Friendship: TRUST. Will not maneuver or pressure a friend to do something or become involved in anything that is unhealthy, or inappropriate.
- [_] #B. AGAPE:RESPECT, compatibility, commitment & unconditional love Despite imperfections: overweight, balding, poor vision, or wears outdated clothing. An admiration for each other that builds, making each feel good about themselves.
- [_] #C. STORGE/Physical & Family Affection: Continues despite emotions.
- [_] #D. EROS/Physical Desire: SENSUAL DESIRE. After marriage, foundation has been established. If the foundation is not strong sexual activity may weaken it.
“You don’t need a mate until you find out who you are & what you need & hope to achieve in this life.”... “We should learn that in order to get what we want in a relationship, we have to first understand who we are & how to identify in others that which we need to help us in our development into Divine” TLA #102
'There are reasons for the behavior problems in our children. Sometimes it may stem from a particular personal need the child has or a response to the child’s environment. Look for the underlying causes which may contribute to the behavior problems your child may be experiencing." “Your children are not your burden; they are your power base." . EXCERPT: Real Love pg. 49 A.M.
REPRODUCTIVE HEALTH & RELATIONSHIPS
Parents make sure you read all of the books too, become familiar with their contents. Some things you may agree with, while other ideas you may not want to entertain. Screen all materials and have an in depth conversation with your child about appropriate behavior, language, and "safe-touch" based on your own cultural norms and laws.
SEX EDUCATION BEGINS AT HOME
"At what age do you begin to have the talk about sex with your children?"
POSITIVE PARENTING TECHNIQUES:
- [_] Establishing Family Values
- [_] Setting Ground Rules & Routine
- [_] Having Directed Discussion
- [_] Incidental Teaching: Teen Dating Violence
- [_] Youth Guidance: Know what your child requires
- [_] Praising Good Behavior
- [_] Displaying Educational Materials: Posters, pamphlets, books on Sex & Reproductive Health. Use them for talking points.
Because of today's trends and the technology that exposes our children to explicit sexual content via the media, my answer to the parent's questions about ages for discussion:
[_] 2 months+ While teaching a baby their body parts, eyes, nose, moth, hands, feet, also teach them the correct anatomical words for the vagina and penis, instead of words like "pocket book" "wee wee"
[_] 2 years+ Teach your child that their body is their own, and that everyone is not allowed to touch them. Teach them what is appropriate in terms of bathing and cleansing themselves, and who is allowed to view them. Don't force them to give hugs or kisses, especially to family members that they show signs of being uncomfortable with and to strangers.. Teach them not to sit on people's laps or accept gifts without your approval.
[_] 4 years+ Allow them to talk openly with you about every body part. Be comfortable with asking them questions about their interraction with their peers and types of questionable behaviors you may have noticed as they are playing without being alarming. Use those talks to help your child understand boundaries in terms of their personal space and the personal space of others. Explain to them the importance of being covered properly with a robe over their underware or casual clothes while at home or visiting with family.
[_] 8+ Ask your child about how they take care of themselves and if they are uncomfortable in the presence of any other child or adult. Ask them about their conversations with other children. Use "Incidental teaching" by bringing up subjects in the news or on TV programs, or in the video games they play about inappropriate activities or criminal behaviors regarding adults and young adults, teens with children.
[_] 10+ Introduce your child to the discussion of reproductive health of both females and males. Find out what they know about relationships and how they view them. Discuss your family values in regards to relationships, sexual health: mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically.
Ask about your children's school assignments and discuss them with the teacher regarding how they use the Internet to look up subjects for their studies. Caution them about viewing explicit materials of the sexual expressions that may "pop-up" during their searches. Talk to teachers at the beginning of the school year about the types of assignments given to the students that may lead to Web pages that contain materials that as a parent, you may not approve of.
Ask the teachers to provide students with a list of "safe" links for their homework assignments that the teacher themselves have explored and determined are age appropriate. When material does "pop-up" discuss what your child has been exposed to. Leave room for questions and answer honestly with what you know about healthy vs unhealthy sexual behavior and activities.
[_] 12+ Discuss the lyrics to the popular songs that they are exposed to while you're listening to the radio or watching videos. Find out if what they are listening to or watching is shaping their minds about relationships: sex, pain and pleasure.
"BAD THINGS" Directed by Hannah Lux Davis, the music video premiered on December 1, 2016 on Vevo. It follows the pair as they lead a somewhat adventurous lifestyle, where they burn trash in barrels, steal stuff, and make out in a barren apartment. MGK (as Romeo) is the resident bad boy, getting into fights and racing cars while Cabello (as Bonnie) stays faithfully by his side. At one point in the video, flashbacks to younger versions of the musicians appear reassuring that their bond really has been unbreakable from the start. Bonnie and Romeo can be seen enjoying late nights at diners, gathering with friends and getting into trouble all while snuggling and fighting along the way. Their rebellious ways lead up to a cliffhanger ending as the pair are chased by police after attempting to steal a car. Stuck at the top of a building with the police hot on their trail and nowhere else to go, the pair decide to die together by committing lover's suicide. As Romeo looks longingly at Bonnie one last time and she nods to him in agreement, the police and their helicopters arrive to apprehend the couple and the lovers join hands together as they prepare to jump off the building together. The video then cuts to the black screen, showing the end credits.
Parents don't be ashamed or alarmed if you are limited in awareness or knowledge when your youth asks you questions. Let your youth know that further discussion will be forthcoming as more information is acquired. When we teach we learn.
IDENTIFYING A CHILD'S VIBRATIONAL CHARACTER AND THE WEAK BEHAVIORAL TRAITS
THAT MAY LEAD TO A YOUTH'S VULNERABILITIES OR INSECURITIES
AVOIDING "HIGH RISKS" BEHAVIORS
... First of all, people in Asia have not been consuming soy like you’ve been led to believe. The research and real life surveys of people from that part of the world tell us that soy has NEVER been a large part of their diet. It’s seen more like a condiment or an accessory to a meal when it’s used on occasion… Definitely not the glasses of:
- [_] soy milk,
- [_] soy burgers, and
- [_] soy ice cream
that people are hammering down today. Secondly, soy isoflavones and other potentially dangerous compounds found in soy are going to affect people differently. Yes, you might not have any noticeable symptoms yet, but the scariest part of the research is that the soy foods you’re consuming will likely damage your children much more than they will you.
In the video I site research showing that 2nd and 3rd generations given soy were progressively becoming infertile. We’re talking about the inability to reproduce, increased mortality, and chronic disease as a result of eating this new wave of soy foods. This has now become a serious issue, and this conversation definitely needs to be had.
Our ancestors knew that the actions we take now, how we take care of ourselves and take care of the planet, would heavily impact the well being of future generations. Many of us seem to have forgotten about that. So many people act in a selfish manner, and ignore the effects that their actions are going to have on their children, grandchildren, and beyond.
This is a call to action to get educated on this right now! Not just for our own health, but for the health and well being of future generations. The actions we take today are that powerful, so enjoy the video, and make sure to share it with everybody you know. By Shawn Stevens
POINT OF SECURITY & INNER CHILD EMOTIONS
During our Positive Parenting Classes under the title "High Risks" parents are asked to review their calculations of their youth's vibrational character. Click on the Blue underlined descriptions below to remind you of your child's gifts, areas of development the and possible opportunities for their advancement towards their Life Purpose.
Those with the character vibrations of 3, 5, and 9 are generally more at risk because of their nature, as well as those who are in a cycle period in their life that is also a 3, 5, or 9.
[_] 1: LEADER 19,28,37,46,55,64,73,82,91
- Point of Security: When the independence is threatened, signs of being assertive, vain, arrogant, self-centered, or defiant may show up. If this youth feels they are being overlooked or slighted in any way they may become quarrelsome. When you notice this youth being critical of self and others, teach this youth how to balance self-reliance & leadership. without being insensitive.
- Inner Child Emotions: Circle weak behavior and negative traits to change: Arrogant, Selfish, Egotistical, Manipulating, Dominating, Cold, No Tact, Tyranny, Antagonism, Bully
[_] 2: DIPLOMAT 11,20,29,38,47,56,65,74,83,92
- Point of Security: May be cautious. Takes everything personally. This youth is extremely alert to what others do. The opinions, insinuations, and actions of others will have a significant influence
- Inner Child Emotions: Circle weak behavior and negative traits to change: Insincere, Petty, Indecisive, Shy,Timid, Self Pitying, Oversensitive, Deceptiveness, Cruel, Bad temper, Slyness, Lying, Pessimism
[_] 3: VISIONARY 12,21,30,39,48,57,66,75,84,93
- Point Of Security: Usually a very talkative child. Expresses their desire for more attention through temper tantrums. This youth will probably have a very short attention span. As a parent you must monitor him/her to make sure homework is done efficiently. Provide opportunities for them to learn how to handle money. Encourage this child to talk about their dreams. As a parent/teacher help this youth to explore practical ways to make those dreams come true
- Inner Child Emotions: Circle weak behavior and negative traits to change: Scattered, Bored, Vain, Dictator, Fickle, Jealousy, Hypocrisy, Wastefulness, Intolerance, Promiscuous
[_] 4: BUILDER 13,22,31,40,49,58,67,76,85,94
- Point Of Security: This child learns by doing, and without any interference. This youth is determined to succeed at whatever he/she has begun. Can be overly serious. As a parent bring some humor to their life. Provide activities that stimulate the lighter side of life. Let this youth know that they do not always have to prove their worth by always being busy.
- Inner Child Emotions: Circle weak behavior and negative traits to change: Insensitive, Dull, Melancholy, Dogmatic, Narrow-Minded , Stubborn, Vulgar, Animalism, Hatred, Violence, Jealousy, Destructive
[_] 5: LIBERATOR 14,23,32,41,50,59,68,77,86,95
- Point Of Security: Encourage this youth to complete tasks and not to be a procrastinator. If this youth is assertive, they may act out with indulging in alcohol, drugs, or sex.
- Inner Child Emotions: Circle weak behavior and negative traits to change: Self-Indulgences related to senses, Irritable, Abusive, Procrastinating, Inconsistent, Perversion, Abuse of Freedom, Substance Abuser: Over-Indulgence in alcohol, drugs: medications or controlled substances, sensuality.
[_] 6: COUNSELOR 15,24,33,42,51,60,78,87,96
- Point Of Security: Teach your child how to separate his/herself from the needs of others. They will always be very alert to what others do, say, want, or believe. Don't let the family be a stumbling block when it comes to allowing this child to assert his/her individuality growing up. Provide activities for this youth to venture out of their comfort zone, while giving plenty of affection and support. Encourage your youth to establish boundaries, so that he/she is very clear about what their own needs are, and what their path in life is.
- Inner Child Emotions: Circle weak behavior and negative traits to change: Self-Righteous, Jealous, Meddlesome, Anxious, Intrusive, Cynicism, Egotism, Suspicion, Jealousy, Slavery, Domestic Tyrant
[_] 7: SCIENTIST 16,25,34,43,52,61,79,88,97
- Point Of Security: Overly serious or afraid of being caught making a mistake. They may feel threatened if you, as a parent/teacher always seem to be checking up on him/her. Doesn't easily trust and may avoid giving you direct answers to the questions you may ask. Encourage this youth to be honest and fair in upholding certain standards, to not expect more from others than they do of his/herself.
- Inner Child Emotions: Circle weak behavior and negative traits to change: Sarcastic, Dishonest, Procrastinator, Will not accept advice, Withdrawn, No Faith, Turbulence, Malice, Deceit, Suppression,Theft, Cheating, Crafty
[_] 8: EXECUTIVE 17,26,35,44,53,62,71,80,98
- Point Of Security: Teach this child how to be fair and how to get along with others without being cruel. Aid him/her in the proper acceptable ways when it comes to them expressing their anger. This youth will always want to be right, and will find facts to substantiate their position and opinions. Later in life he/she may experience serious money or business complications because of improper planning and budgeting skills. As a parent/teacher, provide activities in money management training while very young. Class treasurer, special family accounts entertainment funds.
- Inner Child Emotions: Circle weak behavior and negative traits to change: Greedy, Power-Hungry, Intense, Scheming, Materialistic, Ruthless, Vain Dictator Bullying, Abuse, Revenge, Oppressiveness, Injustice, Cruelty, Unscrupulousness
[_] 9: HUMANITARIAN 18,27,36,45,54,63,72,81,90,99
- Point Of Security: A very generous child. He/she will be more concerned about the future than about what is happening today. As a parent/teacher give this youth tasks that encourage focusing on details that will lead up to a bigger picture. Help to guide this youth by seeing opportunities even in situations that may seem to set him/her back. This youth will have a powerful influence over their environment. He/she will experience meeting all types of people and will learn how to tolerate many different types of behavior and values. As a parent/teacher have discussions with this youth about learning how to “let go”. He/she is very impressionable. Teach him/her to guard against using any mind-altering chemicals, alcohol, or drugs.
- Inner Child Emotions: Circle weak behavior and negative traits to change: Impulsive, Argumentative, Heartless, Unfocused, Temperamental, Wasteful, Immorality, Vulgarity, Bitterness, Moroseness
THEIR EYES WERE WATCHING SCREENS EXCERPT
At 9 years old, wWhen Diane stumbles onto some websites that give her more than she bargained for, Dre and Bow take action. Concerned that the internet is corrupting their children, Dre and Bow decide to make their home an internet-free zone and deal with the backlash. "Their Eyes Were Watching Screens" Black-Ish: Season 3 Episode 11
BOOKS LIST: REPRODUCTIVE HEALTH & DEVELOPMENT
- What's Happening To my Body Book For Boys: 8- years old By Lynda Madaras
- What's Happening To My Body Book For Girls 9-15 years old By Lynda Madaras
- The Male Herbal By James Green, Herbalist
- Tao Of Sexology: PDF Download By Dr. Stephen Chang
FOR MORE DETAILED INFORMATION
The Bernie Mac Show "The Talk" Jordan plays "spin the bottle" Season 3 Episode 19 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vVhQLAZjdp8
Blackish "The Talk" Season 1 Episode 2 REVIEW: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eF0qkzoG7Bc
"Bad Things" is a mid-tempo ballad that features an interpolation of the 1998 Fastball single "Out of My Head". Lyrically, the song incorporates themes of pain-is-pleasure type of love. Commercial performance "Bad Things" debuted at number 80 on the US Billboard Hot 100 during the week of November 5, 2016, becoming MGK's second entry on the chart, after 2011's "Wild Boy", and his highest charting single. It has since reached number four dated February 11, 2017, becoming both MGK and Cabello's first top five single as solo artists. In the UK, the single debuted at number 98 before falling off the chart and re-entering two weeks later at number 52. The single reached a new peak of number 16 on January 20, 2017. As of January 31, 2017, the single has sold 507,000 copies in the United States.
ASK YOUR CHILD TO INDICATE WHAT THEY FEEL IS THE FOUNDATION OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
OR WHEN THE RELATIONSHIP IS UNHEALTHY & UNSAFE
Put [T] for true healthy or put [F] for false not healthy then discuss their answers
- [__] 1. Allows independence & freedom to make choices
- [__] 2. Has a strong physical attraction, starts fast, based on emotions & looks
- [__] 3. A peaceful feeling in each other's presence, not stressful or chaotic.
- [__] 4. Allows for learning about each others personal ideas, dreams, & visions
- [__] 5. Mutual interest in each other increases, establishing a solid foundation.
- [__] 6. Collaborating with plans to achieve goals, ethical standards, life style.
- [__] 7. Being supportive in order to upgrade current lifestyle or status.
- [__] 8. Honesty, sharing real thoughts about past intimate relationships.
- [__] 9. Discussions about getting tested before beginning intimate encounters.
- [__] 10. Agreeing to a plan, & reviewing STI/HIV/HEP status every 3 months.
- [__] 11. Accepting a partnership in a relationship with multiple sexual partners.
- [__] 12. Keeping current with information & responsibilities regarding health.
- [__] 13. Negative feelings/guilt, rejection &/or depression regarding relationship
- [__] 14. Hiding casual relationships in order to avoid the wrath of close partners.
- [__] 15. Sexual activity or substance abuse at the root of relationship.
- [__] 16. Freedom to observe family &/or talk with relatives that have influence
- [__] 17.Guided by gender specific roles, that are socially/traditionally acceptable
- [__] 18. Isolation: Spending less time with family/friends/social acquaintances.
- [__] 19. Emotional instability, worries marked by jealousy, possessiveness, fears
- [__] 20. Fear of loss, but can¡¯t tell what is keeping relationship together
- [__] 21. Communication less verbal, not clear anymore about feelings.
- [__] 22. Together forever, “If I can’t have you, then nobody else will” attitude.
- [__] 23. Unconditional acceptance: devotion, respect, cares despite imperfection
- [__] 24. Ability to endure a crisis or difficult time and maintain bond.
- [__] 25. Wants the other person to be happy, even if they're not in control of it.
- [__] 26. Physical, emotional, mental or sexually abusive in order to make a point
- [__] 27. Allowing to be with someone else, if unable to be happy together.
- [__] 28. Room in relationship for change & adaptation based on circumstances.
- [__] 29. Constantly changing plans, uncertainty regarding quality time together.
- [__] 30. Review relationship annually checking feelings & areas for adjustments.
- [__] 31. Inflexibility, lack of desire/effort to change for maturity in relationship.
- [__] 32. Able to identify purpose for relationship and process it accordingly.
- [__] 33. Setting agreeable rules and boundaries to establish mutual satisfaction.
- [__] 34. Expressing “there’s no one else good enough to take my place” often.
FOOD, ADDITIVES, CHEMICALS, DYES AND BEHAVIOR KNOWLEDGE BREAKS THE SPELL OF IGNORANCE: THE ENDOCRINE SYSTEM
Use media programs saved on youtube, on demand, and commercials as a resource for teaching your children lessons about products being sold as food. The conversations become very open as parents view the T.V. families as lessons and not just entertainment, but edutainment. Parents begin to relax and reflect on whats going on in their own homes, without feeling ashamed to ask questions or make a statement.
The www.fooducate.com application helps to educate parents and youth on foods to avoid by grading its nutritional contents as well as determine if the product is vegetarian, vegan, and/or contains soy, GMO products, hormones, artificial flavors, or dyes, etc.. By using your cell phone camera as a "Health Tracker" scanning the barcodes on the food labels while shopping, increases ones healthy nutritional awareness. Fooducate is a tool to make better decisions regarding food choices.
PRODUCTS AND CATEGORIES
BPA: It’s widely known that bisphenol-A (BPA), an endocrine-disrupting chemical... Lesser known is the fact that BPA is also used to make BPA resins, which keep metal from corroding and breaking. It coats about 75 percent of cans in North America, which means if you eat canned foods, it’s likely a major source of BPA exposure for you. In one study, eating canned soup for five days increased study participants' urinary concentrations of BPA by more than 1,000% compared to eating freshly made soup!
Atrazine, a pesticide that is applied to more than half the corn crops in the United States, atrazine causes sexual abnormalities in frogs, and could cause the same problems for humans. Tyrone Hayes, Scientist, of the University of California, Berkeley, discovered a widely used herbicide may have harmful effects on the endocrine system THE
ENDOCRINE SYSTEM & REPRODUCTIVE GLANDS:
Reproductive Glands The gonads are the main source of sex hormones. Most people don't realize it, but both guys and girls have gonads.
In guys the male gonads, or testes (pronounced: TES-teez), are located in the scrotum. They secrete hormones called androgens (pronounced: AN-druh-junz), the most important of which is testosterone (pronounced: tess-TOSS-tuh-rone). These hormones tell a guy's body when it's time to make the changes associated with puberty, like penis and height growth, deepening voice, and growth in facial and pubic hair. Working with hormones from the pituitary gland, testosterone also tells a guy's body when it's time to produce sperm in the testes.
A girl's gonads, the ovaries (pronounced: OH-vuh-reez), are located in her pelvis. They produce eggs and secrete the female hormones estrogen (pronounced: ESS-truh-jen) and progesterone (pronounced: pro-JESS-tuh-rone). Estrogen is involved when a girl begins to go through puberty. During puberty, a girl will experience breast growth, will begin to accumulate body fat around the hips and thighs, and will have a growth spurt. Estrogen and progesterone are also involved in the regulation of a girl's menstrual cycle.
FOODUCATE GRADING SYSTEM: NUTRITION AND INGREDIENTS
Food labels in your cabinets can be scanned with your cell phone to check how healthy your everyday products are. Using this app is a good way to determine if your child's behavior is associated with the artificial or highly processed foods they are receiving. Some children may have to be off of products for 3 weeks for a difference in behavior to be noticed. Keep a behavior chart daily that includes a space to write a food diary.
- Food Additives mimic human hormones
- Soy Products & Health Risks
- The Dangers Of Soy
- Fruits And Vegetables
- Meat And Fish
- Fast Foods
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SOCIALIZING OUR YOUTH, CHANGING BEHAVIORS, 7 GENERATIONS Acknowledging That We Are The Past, Present, & Future
WHILE VIEWING THIS REFRIGERATOR WHAT THREE WORDS COME TO MIND?
12 WORST FOOD INGREDIENTS