POSITIVE PARENTING ASSESSMENT
POSITIVE PARENTING ASSESSMENT
POSITIVE PARENTING 28 DAY CYCLE PRE-ASSESSMENT CHECK LIST:
TRANS THEORECTICAL BEHAVIORAL MODEL FOR CHANGE & SELF-ANALYSIS. An effective discipline system must contain three vital elements (and also include a model of self care). Each element needs to be functioning adequately for discipline to be effective. Check off and grade on a scale from 1-5 your current parental behavior that you practice with your children.
0: PRE-CONTEMPLATION: Not ready, I never do this
1: CONTEMPLATION: I Could use some improvement
2: CONTEMPLATION: I could do things differently,
3: PLANNING: Taking steps to implement changes
4: MAINTAINING FOR 1 MONTH: Doing often, getting better
5: MAINTAINING: Living A Positive Parenting Life-style
1) INITIATE: 25 points
POSITIVE, SUPPORTIVE, LOVING RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN PARENT AND CHILD:
[_]a. Maintain a positive emotional tone in the home.
[_]b. Pay attention to the child to increase positive behavior / withhold attention to decrease negative behaviors.
[_]c. Be consistent in daily activities to reduce resistance and make negative experiences less stressful.
[_]d. Respond consistently to similar behaviors.
[_]e. Be flexible by listening, negotiation, and involving the child in decision-making. This has been associated with long- term enhancement in moral judgment.
[_]f. Maintain healthy nutritional habits:
4.17 points each. Score: __
2) REFINE: 25 points
POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT STRATEGIES TO INCREASE DESIRED BEHAVIORS:
Give regular positive attention or “special time.”
[_]a. Listen carefully and help them learn to use words to express their feelings.
[_]b. Provide children with opportunities to make choices and to understand the consequences of their choice.
[_]c. Reinforce desirable behaviors with frequent praise and ignore trivial misdeeds.
[_]d. Be a good model for orderly, predictable behavior, respectful communication, and conflict resolution.
6.25 points each. Score: __
3) TRANSFORM: 25 points
REMOVE REINFORCEMENTS OR APPLY PUNISHMENT TO REDUCE OR ELIMINATE UNDESIRED BEHAVIORS.
[_]a. Be consistent with time-out and removal of privileges (increases compliance from 25% to 80%)
[_]b. Be clear about what the bad behavior is and what the consequences will be.
[_]c. Provide a strong and immediate consequence when the bad behavior first occurs.
[_]d. Providing an appropriate consequence each time the bad behavior occurs.
[_]e. Deliver instruction and correction calmly and with empathy.
[_]f. Give a reason for the consequence. This helps children learn appropriate behavior.
[_]g. Use verbal reprimands infrequently and always direct them towards the bad behavior not the child’s character.
3.58 points each. Score: __
4) POWER: 25 points
SELF-CARE & REWARDS
[_]a. Managing anger with stress management techniques
[_]b. Involved in relaxing, and re-energizing habits & healthy lifestyle activities
[_]c. Taking trips, enjoying nature and community
[_]d. Maintain positive communication with supportive respectful caring adult friendships
[_]e. Maintain positive communication with loving stable intimate partner relationship
5 points each. Score: __
THIS MONTH'S TOTAL POSITIVE PARENTING SCORE: ___
KEEPING WEEKLY & MONTHLY RECORDS
The woman is the keeper of the secrets of time"
"In Kemet (Ancient Egypt) mothers were often extolled by kings and nobles on their monuments. In this the matriarchal nature of Kemetic rulership, woman wielded a great deal of power whether in the position of rulership or as having a definite voice in government and direct influence on the king." Excerpt: Black Women In Antiquity By Ivan Van Sertima
USING THE DREAMSPELL MONTHLY CALENDAR:
- Helpful Moon Cycles & Aromatherapy http://healthwealthandromance.com/mooncycleschart.html
- Dreamspell 28 Day Calendar & Positive Daily Affirmations http://www.lawoftime.org/thirteenmoon/13-moon-calendar.html
- Free downloadable Calendar http://www.lawoftime.org/thirteenmoon/freecal.html
"Words saturated with sincerity, conviction, faith, and intuition are like highly explosive vibration bombs, which, when set off, shatter the rocks of difficulties and create the change desired. Avoid speaking unpleasant words, even if true. Sincere words of ffirmations repeated understandingly, freelingy, and willingly are sure to move the Omnipresent Cosmic Vibratory Force to rend aid in your difficulty" Scientific Healing Affirmations by Paramahansa Yogananda.
In this group each month, week, and daily affirmation will have it's own unique focus for self and community development by following the Law Of Time’s 28 Day "Dreamspell Calendar"
Based on the Olmec/Mayan mathematical calendar system
Click on the link above to download a free current calendar to your phone:
[_] 1st week Initiation Days: 1st-7th
Identifying The Use Of Positive Parenting Skills For Developing Good Relationship With Child
[_] 2nd week Refining Days: 8th -14th
Encouraging good behavior according to natural talents & skills to develop for child’s destiny.
[_] 3rd week Transformation Days: 15th -21st
Teaching new skills & managing behavior according to Inner Child and Life Purpose
[_] 4th week Rewarding Days: 22nd - 28th
Addressing anger and shadows, identifying relaxation and stress management techniques and love languages.
UNIVERSAL LAWS AND AGREEMENTS: TRANSTHEORETICAL MODEL
Where Are You On The Assessment Scale:
0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
CHARTING: Mothers will learn how to parent a child based on their child's natural talents and gifts. Requirement for membership would be to use your children(s) Mathematical Analysis Chart (numerology) as a reference guide: The guide will be for each child's development in order to effectively monitor your own personal and child's positive development for this group according to their lists of natural talents, gifts, nutrition and lifestyle, while implementing "Positive Parenting" techniques.
MOTHER IS 1ST NURSE 1ST TEACHER
"Mother is such a divine word. The experience of mother is the experience of being a god in the lives of your children. It means much more than the well-known physical process of pregnancy, birth and nurturing (though many Black women have lost even this basic natural instince to properly care for their own children). It embraces the awareness of the real value of your body - - the most elegant possession we have on the physical plane - - something precious which requires attention" ... In addition to her role as Mother Of Civilization, the Black woman is also the High Priestess of the world." Excerpt: Min. Ava Muhammad
- Bath-sheba: Mother of Solomon
- Hannah: Mother of Samuel
- Aahemes-Nefetari: Mother of Aahmes, Amenhotep
- Hatshepsut: Mother of Nefrure
- Maryam: Mother of Isa (Jesus)
- Nandi: Mother of Shaka
- Tiye: Mother of Akhenaten & Tutankhamen (Tut)
- Hoelun: Mother of Genghis Khan
"Mother Is 1st Nurse 1st Teacher Positive Parenting" is an educational group focusing on how to teach mothers to teach the gods that you gave birth to ranging from the ages of 0-9 years old. While developing a positive, supportive, loving relationship between the parents in the home and between the parents and child. Each month (28 day cycle) will be a different focus universally and a different approach individually for self development and family activities according to your personal "Family Vision" vibration and mathematical characteristics.
Please learn how to calculate for yourself and then calculate your family members according to everyone’s personal vibration and mathematical characteristics. Instructions are given on how to do this on this page:
Mothers are asked to learn how to parent a child based on their child's
- [__/_] Innerchild: Emotions, natural talents, health & nutrition, based on day of birth.
- [__/_] Life Purpose: Skills to develop, transitions & challenges as indicated by date of birth
- [__/_] Destiny: Life story guided by the name documented on child's birth record.
- [__/_] Destiny: Style of effective & natural parenting techniques indicated by parent's own name documented on birth record.
GOALS FOR CHANGE:Think about your child's behavior for a moment. Each week you will have the opportunity to select a goal for change. This program will support you in using positive parenting skills to accomplish the goals you set for your child.
- Mother: http://www.whenyouteachawomanyouteachanation.com/holiday_6.html
- Father: http://whenyouteachawomanyouteachanation.com/holiday_7.html
- [__/_] Heart: This is the area of the Soul's desire for true companionship. Parents can use this area to identify what's at the core of their love & romantic feelings to acknowledge. Once you have identified your heart, confirm the expression of it through the 5 Love Languages Profile: Take this profile on line, download (and email to yourself) save the results to share with each other.
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/ WAYS TO COMMUNICATE LOVE ...
Watch the video to see ways to communicate your love language! http://keepthefaith.com/page/gary-chapman