3rd Week Transform: Socializing Our Youth

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CURRENT EVENTS/FACEBOOK

HIGH-RISK SITUATIONS:

WHO IS HELPING WITH THE CARE OF YOUR CHILDREN? WHERE IS THE SAFE COMMUNITY SUPPORT?
You are giving birth to those who are born focused and determined. A child's mind is built to master problems. Though not necessarily to understand the consequences of their actions. They spend every waking moment and during their sleep imagining, dreaming vizualizing, feeling themselves being successful.  They come here knowing what we have forgotten "The secret to success". 

Dont underestimate the abilities of a toddler. Look how fast they learn how to open programs on electronic devices to operate them, they are capable of unlocking doors and ending up in places you thought they never knew how to get to. They have unlimited brain power. An active, alert, and loving parent(s) who knows their responsibility is what is required for children. 

A child needs to feel and be safe. An infant, a curious toddler, a child and even teenagers have to have their abilities guarded, channelled, guided and directed in order to work properly for us and not against themselves and the well-being of the family.

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Mother Is 1st Nurse 1st Teacher Positive Parenting Facebook Page

SPANKING

UNDERSTANDING THE LAW: A PARENTS LIMITED RIGHTS TO SPANK
Currently, parents in all states have a limited right to spank their children. Courts have decided that parents have a constitutional right to raise their children as they see fit, including using whatever method of discipline they think is best. Whether by statute or by legal opinion, states permit parents to use physical discipline against their children as long as it is done in moderation and does not cause injury.

Standing on the sidewalk with your three-year-old, she pulls away from you and starts running toward a busy street. To her, it is a game, but to you, it is a life-threatening situation. You grab her just as she heads into the street and deliver a swift smack on the bum with an admonition, “No running in the street!” Startled, she stops. Have you just committed a crime?" 

  • UNDER GEORGIA'S  LAWS
    for example, physical discipline may be used as long as the child is not injured. (Ga. Code. Ann. §§ 19-7-5, 19-15-1.) In 
  • UNDER CALIFORNIA'S LAWS
    California, parents are allowed to use “reasonable and age-appropriate spanking to the buttocks” as long as there is no serious physical injury to the child. (Cal. Welf. & Inst. Code § 300(a).)
  • OPEN HAND SPANKING:
    For example, spanking a six-year-old child twice on the bottom, where the spanking causes no injury and only fleeting discomfort, would probably be considered lawful under Georgia’s and California’s laws, as well as in other states. 

CHILD ABUSE  
However, striking the same six-year-old numerous times with a belt, causing lacerations, bruising, and pain that lasted for days, could be considered child abuse. The Line Between Spanking and Abuse
CASE-BY-CASE BASIS
The state prosecutors and judges generally decide on a case-by-case basis whether discipline crosses the line. Using physical force against your child may constitute:

  • [_] assault
  • [_] battery
  • [_] child abuse
  • [_] domestic violence

WHEN DISCIPLINE CAUSES INJURY:
Not just discomfort the amount of force used is unreasonable, or it’s purpose is something other than correcting inappropriate or dangerous behavior.

For more information on these crimes, see: 

    • Assault and Battery, Domestic Violence Laws and Penalties 
    • Child Abuse: Laws & Criminal Penalties.
    • Child Dependency Consequences

 

SUGGESTED PROGRAMS:                   

[_] 'LAW AND ORDER EPISODES

      • [_] #S14Ep19      Born Psychopath: Regarding Henry
      • [_] 2:40 Clip        The SVU detectives try to convince a psychotic boy's parents to seek treatment, but it will take one more terrifying incident before they're convinced.

[_] NETFLIX

      • [_] Adderall         Take Your Pills
      • The way the documentary tells the history of the drug since the 1930s is great, producing some of the best moments in the film as a whole. It provides an interesting perspective into the pharmaceutical boom of the second half of the 20th century, using amphetamine, the drug that would become modern Adderall
      • [_] Adderall Trailer  An American phenomenon,” she insisted. “And it’s not just students, by the way… It’s across industries, across professions. It starts as young as 7. I met a woman the other day who told me she was 71 and her doctor prescribed Adderall for her... So I think we’re in an overly medicated country right now. Everybody knows that.” Schwarzenegger opened up about her struggle with the drug. “I was diagnosed I think when I was around five with ADD, as a majority of kids probably are,” she told Fox News. “And then I started taking it in high school, ninth grade, for about a few months, and then I stopped taking it. Just because I didn’t like the side effects.”

 [_] "THE BERNIE MAC SHOW" Episodes On Youtube                 

      • [_] #S2Ep10        Sin Cup
      • Bernie and Wanda worry about Jordan's religious faith after he defaces a picture of Jesus. Punished for perceived blasphemy, Jordan gets Bryana to strike back for him.
      • [_] Full Episode   Discuss family rules based on: values, culture, traditions.  Set good examples through incidental teaching.
      •  
      • [_] #S1Ep15       Lockdown
      • After an intruder breaks into the house, Bernie reacts by turning it into a high security compound, driving everyone crazy with his overprotectiveness.
      • [_] Full Episode   Discuss high risk situations and family safety, develop family routines.
      • [_] #S5Ep9        Prison Break
      • Bernie realizes his punishment system is no longer effective so he puts the kids into a total lockdown.
      • [_] Full Episode  Talk about family rules and consequences
      • [_] # S5Ep7       For Whom The Belt Tolls
      • Wanda learns about Bernie's secret discipline-keeping device, and its power corrupts her.
      • [_] Full Episode  Have realistic expectations.  Use assertive discipline, follow up with discussion.

           

[_] "BLACK-ISH"  EPISODES On Demand, Youtube

      • [_] # S3Ep2.       GOD
      • When Zoey questions her belief in God, Dre has a crises of faith and looks to family and co-workers for input.
      • [_] Full Episode    Discuss family rules based on: values, culture, and traditions.  Use incidental teaching to set good examples.
      • [_] # S3Ep3.       40 Acres And A Vote
      • Dre becomes Junior's campaign manager after his son decides to run for class president
      • Full Episode
      • [_] # S3Ep4.        Who's Afraid Of The Big Black Man?
      • After the situation of a toddler girl appearing in the parking garage elevator. Dre's views on how Black people are perceived now verus when he grew up are confronted. Dre again tries to prove that racism is still very much alive and it's not just in his head.
      • [_] Full Episode
      • [_] #S2Ep16       Hope
      • Dre and Bow aren't sure how to respond when the kids ask tough questions about a controversial court case involving alleged police brutality
      • [_] "Wake-Up"
      • [_] Full Episode
      • [_]  # S3Ep2.      Being Bow-Racial
      • Bow deals with feelings about her own biracial identity
      • [_] Full Episode
      • [_]# S1Ep21       The Peer-ent Trap
      • When Zoey starts acting out and pushes boundaries, Dre and Bow disagree on how to handle her bad behavior
      • [_] Full Episode

WRITE YOUR THOUGHTS AND DOCUMENT THE INFORMATION BELOW ABOUT A CURRENT EVENT OR PROGRAM YOU READ ABOUT OR WATCHED:

[_] GROUP ASSIGNED PROGRAM       [_] PARENT PROGRAM OF CHOICE:           

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MAIN CHARACTERS:                      ROLE:     

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          • PROBLEM:

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          • SOLUTION:

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          • LESSON LEARNED:

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POSITIVE PARENTING

CHART: POSITIVE PARENTING TECHNIQUES & CHILD ISSUES

MANAGING MISBEHAVIOR: Teaching New Skills & Behaviors

  • [_] 5. New skills: Inner Child & Life Purpose
  • [_] 7. Recognizing the Heart of the matter
    3: CALENDER: BEHAVIOR DIARY KEEPING TRACK
    [_] #16 Routinely Using “Assertive Discipline”
    [_] #17 Having Calm “Direct Discussions”
    [_] #18 “Managed with “Planned Ignoring”
    [_] #19 Parenting Routine:“Start & Stop” Instructions .
    [_] #20 Using “Quiet Time” age: __= __minutes
    [_] #21 Using “Time Out” age: __= __minutes

 

PARENT MANUAL PAGES: #40-44, 46-52,55-59     53, 54, 56, 59

CHARTING DATE: __/__/___ MINUTES: [_]10 [_]15 [_]20 [_]30

Name 2 things that worked with the technique you chose:

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What will you do differently next time?

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MANAGING MISBEHAVIOR

SOCIALIZING OUR YOUTH CONSULTATION PAGE

 

[_] 3rd Week Transform

7th Week Review
Stress And Anger Management

"It was 1976. My father and I were watching the evening news. The Oakland police had killed a young black man. We were upset. I remember my father said to me:

"Ken. If a police officer shoots you. That's on you." "What"? I asked, bewildered. "Your life is your responsibility.

If you get stopped by a cop, your job is to stay alive.

If you get into an argument and it escalates to a confrontation and you get shot, even if you are right, and the cop is wrong, you still dead.

I can't bring you back. All of the marching and protesting in the world is not going to bring you back. You protect yourself from racist cops by

  • [_] Not giving cops an excuse.
  • [_] Mind your business.
  • [_] Stay out of trouble.
  • [_] Obey the law.

Because if something happens to you they going to have to kill both of us, and I aint ready to go. Understand what I'm saying?" I nodded my head 'yes'. And that was that"

Courtesy: Kenyatta Slade

 

28 DAY CALENDAR FOR CHANGING BEHAVIORS

RESOURCE MATERIALS: PRACTICING POSITIVE PARENTING TECHNIQUES
DEVELOPMENTAL MILESTONES & POSITIVE PARENTING TIPS: 
https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/childdevelopment/freematerials.html 

NEVER GIVE IN OR GIVE UP

POSITIVE PARENTING TIPS   AGES OF DEVELOPMENT:

RESOURCES: HOW TO PARENT VIDEOS

Positive Communicating:

  • 4:43, 3:14
  • [_]1. Praise: Be Clear & Specific
  • [_]2. Acknowledgment: Imitation & Copying
  • [_]3. Description: Talking About It
  • [_]4. Active Listening: Give Full Attention, Decrease Distractions

 Giving Directions

  • 3:36, 2:57r
  • [_]1. Get Their Attention: Eye Contact
  • [_]2. Give The Direction: "What To Do"
  • [_]3. Check Compliance: Repeat & Give Warnings 
  • [_]4. Add A Consequence: For Not Following Direction
  • [_]5. Do Not Hold A Grudge

 Using Discipline/Consequences

  • 3:46
  • [_]1. Identify Misbehavior
  • [_]2. 2 Warnings, Not Threats
  • [_]3. Give A Consequence
  • [_]4. Tell Them Why
  • [_]5. Positive Communication

 Creating Structure/Rules & Plans

  • 3:45, 3:11
  • [_]1. Identify Family Routine & Order
  • [_]2. Explain The Routine: Use Charts
  • [_]3. Follow The Routine 
  • [_]4. Use Consequences
  • [_]5. Reward For Following Routines
  • [_]6. Be Flexible, If Changes Occur

 Using Time-Out

  • 3:56, 3:31
  • [_]1. Where You Can See Them
  • [_]2. Age 2-2 Minutes 5-5 Minutes
  • [_]3. "Move-On"
  • [_]4. Praise Good Behavior

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